tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21976303.post113980332878812058..comments2024-03-24T05:22:27.179-04:00Comments on Orthonomics: Orthonomicshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07892074485262548496noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21976303.post-1140030055179232232006-02-15T14:00:00.000-05:002006-02-15T14:00:00.000-05:00Me too. Now I just need to decide how to approach...Me too. Now I just need to decide how to approach the issue.Orthonomicshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07892074485262548496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21976303.post-1140024293766718032006-02-15T12:24:00.000-05:002006-02-15T12:24:00.000-05:00Black hatter. You haven't changed my mind, but I ...Black hatter. You haven't changed my mind, but I think that you have inspired what will be my 3rd Parenting Crisis Post. <BR/><BR/>That said, I hope you will stick around here.Orthonomicshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07892074485262548496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21976303.post-1139978032283102342006-02-14T23:33:00.000-05:002006-02-14T23:33:00.000-05:00I don't think the number of children that I have u...I don't think the number of children that I have under the age of 9 is relevant. Parenting is about the long term and whether you have 1 child under 9 or 6 children under 9 the goal is the same.Orthonomicshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07892074485262548496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21976303.post-1139939608173622232006-02-14T12:53:00.000-05:002006-02-14T12:53:00.000-05:00Welcome black hatter. I'm actually quite disturbe...Welcome black hatter. I'm actually quite disturbed that gedolim cards have become a parenting tool. <BR/><BR/>It is very dangerous territory to enter where you parent by bribing to get good behavior, rather than rewarding good behavior.<BR/><BR/>What a parent should be doing is <B>motivating</B>. And, the examples you gave are clearly not motivating. Motivation can include a reward, but what you listed is not that.Orthonomicshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07892074485262548496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21976303.post-1139894282308213802006-02-14T00:18:00.000-05:002006-02-14T00:18:00.000-05:00You're right, no is a very underused word. it's la...You're right, no is a very underused word. it's lack of use translates to bratty kids who think they are due everything. afterall mommy went out and bought me.....because i had to have it! my poor children get to hear no often and are told flat out it is too expensive, we can't afford it. oh, well...<BR/>fast forward this attitide to the wedding age and you have these over the top 300+ affairs in some hall. even worse are the rules of who buys what. no one seems to have heard of a budget. when i mentioned this to a friend, she said no one wants to look cheap to the inlaws. i was incredulous, like you, my husband and i paid cash for our wedding. neither parents were in a position to help and we weren't asking. <BR/>i live in hope that some parents will develop backbones and will halt this looney tunes. the other possiblity is that with the tuitions skyrocketting, there won't be the excess money available to fuel these attitudes. who would have thought the tuition crisis would have a silver lining?queeniesmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01019952170168937114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21976303.post-1139890246881655752006-02-13T23:10:00.000-05:002006-02-13T23:10:00.000-05:00Mazal Tov Charlie on your anniversary. I will get...Mazal Tov Charlie on your anniversary. I will get to a post. But, a preview, we got married in a major city with about 160 guests and very few trimmings and the cost was quite manageable. It cost more than your wedding, but not too much more. And, we paid cash.Orthonomicshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07892074485262548496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21976303.post-1139889476950174862006-02-13T22:57:00.000-05:002006-02-13T22:57:00.000-05:00FWIW my wife and I were married a year ago last we...FWIW my wife and I were married a year ago last week. The total cost was about $10,000, with around 140 guests. It was a beautiful wedding in a beautiful old shul, good food at the seuda held in the shul basement, (fish, not meat, which allowed us to have better desserts), no alcohol, a great live band and lots of dancing. We did not borrow money for it. The fact that it was in Pittsburgh may have saved us some money. Getting married in her shul was so much more meaningful than getting married in some anonymous catering hall.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21976303.post-1139870337200429832006-02-13T17:38:00.000-05:002006-02-13T17:38:00.000-05:00Good post idea. I'll get to work. My rule of thu...Good post idea. I'll get to work. My rule of thumb for a wedding is that you should be able to pay for it out of pocket. I personally believe that one should not go into hock over a wedding. <BR/><BR/>I will get to work.Orthonomicshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07892074485262548496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21976303.post-1139869036271065832006-02-13T17:17:00.000-05:002006-02-13T17:17:00.000-05:00Sephardilady - can you please do a post about how ...Sephardilady - can you please do a post about how much a reasonable chasuna should cost? My wife's friend is convinced that she must borrow an exhorbanant amount of money to pay for her wedding. I've been trying to convince her to scale down, but she would rather just borrow money for a one day event. I don't know if she is going to do it or not, but I am sure that there are others like her out there.Yitzchak Jakobihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00705484909251481064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21976303.post-1139805075772068792006-02-12T23:31:00.000-05:002006-02-12T23:31:00.000-05:00The limit, SL, is at three pieces of cheese!The limit, SL, is at three pieces of cheese!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com