An Impediment to Gainful Employment: Expecting too much too quickly

There is an insidious attitude that I think underscores many situations of unemployment and underemployment. I've seen it in the world at large. And I've seen it in the frum community. But as I see it, when this attitude rears its head in the frum community (in America or in Israel), the effects on the community at large are far more direct.

The infamous "Ed," who likes to spend his blogging hours disagreeing with Rabbi Harry Maryles posted a comment that underscores this bad attitude in all its glory. It appears below with emphasis added and a minor spelling change or two below.

A Meshulach from Kiryat Sefer knocked on my door, and I offered him a drink which he graciously accepted. He seemed not to mind to relax a couple minutes, so I had a little talk with him.

In a polite way, I asked him why so few avreichim are willing to study and work. He responded along the lines, that to begin with, the Matzav Ha'parnassa is in general very difficult. The million or so Russians which have recently immigrated are willing to work for much less as their needs are much less, and they have overtaken a significant part of the job market.

To have a good job, it usually requires one to be in the Chiloni "territory", where the anti religious atmosphere is very strong. Thus, it is in general a Matzav of Sakana Ruchni and therefore discouraged as many are not able to withstand the constant pressure and ridicule.

He mentioned that in America, this is not so. Here, we are among mainly Goyim and its much easier to create lines that ought not to be crossed.

Whereas there in EY, the lines are very often blurred. (Take for example the Daat Emet site, where he attempts to use Torah to disprove Torah. For one who isn't particularly knowledgeable in certain specifics, his anti Torah arguments can sometimes sound very persuasive.)

Whereas in America, where frum Jews are much more influential and have much unity, its a lot easier having many people in the workforce since they have a strong Torah community as a backbone. Whereas for example France lacks that, and therefore, there's a stronger need for a stricter adherence to Torah.

The attitude underscored is one that cripples employability. An entry level worker who expects far too much, far too quickly in terms of pay, hours, and location is just not an attractive candidate. And, entry level workers are disposable. If this one won't take the job for $30,000 annual salary, there are three in line behind him who will. And if the employee in line behind expresses more flexibility regarding location or shifts, you can be sure that the first entry level candidate will be told to go to the back of the line.

One cannot ask for a salary beyond what the market will bear. One must expect to put in their time and be rewarded later. Those who expect too much too soon are bound to be passed up even when applying for minimum wage jobs! Landing a job is a competitive process, and so one must compete.

I remember landing my first job as an employee during the summer following my first year of college. I called nearly every contact in the classifieds if I thought I was remotely qualified: camp counselor, hostess in a restaurant, secretary, front desk person, telemarketer, ice cream scooper, dish washer. . . .you name it, I applied. Unable to wait it out and watch the summer go by making it more unlikely I would land a job, I took the first job I was offered.

It was a minimum wage job at $4.10 an hour. But I couldn't be unthankful. I was lucky to get that job! The employer didn't really need me. There were other people willing to take the job too. But, I think he chose me over the others because I was willing to work almost any shift that he asked of me. I had scheduled the accounting class that I was taking at 6:30 AM to be available to take nearly any job that would come up, and I ended up with a busy schedule that summer since I often ended up working the late night shift at this job. I also had a second job tutoring and I took a third job later in the summer which involved some heavier labor (at $8.00 a hour).

While the job offered me no marketable skills (unless you can count cleaning up after other people at the end of the day, something I do far too often now), it offered me a chance to prove that I could be a loyal and reliable employee, and it gave me something to put on my resume that involved working for someone besides me or my father.

I'm really glad that at this point in my life I have been able to bury my few jobs in the annals of history. But, I expect that when I return to full time work for an employer someday, I will be expected to demonstrate the same flexbility and loyalty that landed me those first two jobs and the professional jobs that followed.

On a related note: a couple of Pesachs ago, my son took an interest in watching a family that would drive through the neighborhood collecting trash that had value to them. For little children, dirty work does not seem to lack respect, as even the trash collector can be a hero for a little boy. We saw this family at least three times during the Chag as they would appear in various parts of the neighborhood.

It sparked an interesting conversation between me and my husband about what types of work we would be willing to do should that ever become necessary. While we never reached a hard and fast conclusion (nor do I wish that upon us), we did conclude that employment is far superior to unemployment.