I found this comment at YWN. The misconceptions about living out of town abound. The lack of busing mention is, however, not a misconception. This [unedited] comment is classic.
#1: you’re right that when you live “out of town” you can bring up your family in an environment with much less gashmius which is why we live out of town. In general also the people display more of a finekeit and aidelkeit and that overall people have better midos. however you have to realize what you are giving up by liveing out of town. we do pay lower taxes than in NY but we also get alot less. there is alot of mesiras nefesh involved with living out of town. examples: here in Baltimore we have to pay out of pocket for bussing to school and not all schools offer it. most can’t afford it so we are doing carpools. with 10 kids and 3-4 different schools, each with 3 dismissal times it’s carpool almost every morning and afternoon, sometimes 2-3 per
afternoon. school lunches are also out of pocket and again not every school
offers it so 10 kids=making 10 lunches per day! most people have a big
adjustment to out of town also because you just can’t buy here what you can in
NY (lack of gashmius)but it’s not easy when you really need furniture, clothing etc. and have to shlep to NY. after a while you get used to living with less because everyone else is but it takes time. you have higher taxes in NY but you get so much more. its a trade-off so appreciate what you get and the next time NYers want to complain because of those sunday carpools, think of us out of town and you’ll appreciate what you get! living out of town is a wonderful thing and the dividends of having fine, ehrliche children with beatiful midos will pay off but it’s not the easy life!
Comment by cholent lover — January 21, 2009 @ 11:55 am
I never realized you can't buy furniture or clothing outside of NY! I wonder where I got my furniture? Here's a clue: I didn't buy my furniture in NY. I guess even the pricey Ethan Allen isn't enough for the "heimish" shopper.
It is interesting how the commentor wants to leave the materialism of the big city behind, but can't quite escape it. I guess you can't take the NY our of the NY'er.
And can someone please explain to me why any parent is packing 10 lunches a day? By the time I was in 2nd grade, I'm fairly certain that I was packing my own lunchbox with minimal assistance (remember the days when lunchboxes were all the rage?).
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