Thursday, July 11, 2013
What's in it for the "Girls?"
*Shadchan quote: "She is a great girl, with a stable job, and a lot of life experience."
*Shadchan quote: "She is much more grounded and prepared for marriage."
*Bochur/later in the video Married Man quote: "Her maturity brought so much to our marriage" (emphasis mine)
Where couples meet as peers, perhaps age is 'just a number', although historical patterns show that woman have always gravitated to older men and there are studies that show marriage is more stable with some age gaps than others. I do believe that where couples meet younger [in the course of living their lives], the age gap is generally much closer. After all, how many seniors are interested in freshman?
Unlike a meeting by chance on an internship or in a chem lab, in shidduchim, meeting is not by chance, but by design and normally a shidduch date is set up after interested parties have decided the other person has something to offer. NASI is trying to re-design the desirable, and puts forward a 'utilitarian' case as to why young men should consider those who are older than them (6 entire months!!). But, pray tell, do these young men offer to the "mature" young ladies with "stable jobs"?
And, is this really the type of marketing needed to expand people's horizons regarding "acceptable" dating?
Your (3-weeks-appropriate) thoughts?