Sometimes blogging material just falls in my lap. Today in the car I caught the following radio spot, narrated by Donald Trump. Normally I wouldn't bring Donald Trump into my blog, but it fits right into the "Our Finances" series, so I had to share it (fortunately, I was able to find the transcript online). Mr. Trump's voice on his radio spot adds a lot, but I can't upload the voice.
"Sure, you’ve heard about normal infidelity, but what about financial infidelity? That’s when women hide their spending from their spouses. [I'd say that is when one spouse, any spouse, hides pertinent information from the others. . . .but, for some reason Mr. Trump decided to focus on the women].
According to several recent stories I’ve read, women are likely to buy expensive designer items with cash. That way, it’s easier to hide their spending from their husband or boyfriend.
In fact, it gets so serious sometimes that more than 80 percent of American women go so far as to actually hide department store shopping bags from their men so they don’t even suspect they were out buying things.
Some people say it’s only fair. Lots of guys cheat in the bedroom, so what if lots of women cheat at the mall?
I say cheating is cheating, whatever kind it is. Sooner or later, you’re going to get caught so decide whether the thrill is worth the price you’ll pay in the end."
Donald Trump focuses on the women in his radio spot. We know that men hide a lot of financial information from their wives also. Either way, it is a form of infidelity and undermines the marriage.
From a halachic standpoint, "Financial Infidelity," involves many issurim. The Ben Ish Hai addresses the issue of a wife's responsiblity to guard the husband's assets in his sefer for women. Unfortunately, "Financial Infidelity" is a problem amongst the am yisrael, as it is amongst the general public.
I think a smart rule of thumb to follow is that if you feel uncomfortable telling your spouse about a purchase, investment, or business scheme, you shouldn't be buying, investing, or engaging in it until the issue is hashed out. I am a believer that trust is probably the most important element in a healthy marriage. Without trust, the foundation is cracked.
Short and sweet. Up next, advice for singles.