Tuesday, December 13, 2011
(Link) It Feels So Good: After 22 Years. . . . Financial Freedom
Before I get back to my previous subject, I don't want my readers to miss a great post at BeyondBT. Michoel writes about Finance Independence and Success in the T'shuvah Process where, after 22 years of support, his family has made it their biggest priority to wean themselves off familial financial support.
In the process of becoming financially independent, they are already experiencing some wonderful side benefits:
**No confusion as to whose dollar is being spent/donated.
**Time belongs to him (better learning).
**Great respect for parents as they see principled, responsible parents (the frugal can and do say no! with conviction and the children are emotionally healthier for it.
The author sums up his post beautifully:
"I had been told in my days in yeshiva, that it was a big z'chus for non-frum relatives to allow them them the pay for your tuition. This was a classic cas of mis-applied-ffb-bt-hyper-religious-gobbly-gook. First build yourself. Then worry about saving the world. And then worry about saving your family. The biggest z'chs for them is to see frum Jews living in a way that will cause them to respect frum Jews. And you might be the only example they have."
Personally, I'm baffled there is any argument on the post. Do we not read (almost) the same birchat hamazon text? Do we not pray that we not be dependent on gifts and loans from flesh and blood? Is the borrower no longer slave to the lender? Are chazal's admonitions no longer applicable?