Hat Tip: Ateres
A reader kindly pointed me to this story on VIN regarding new wedding takanot in Belzer kehillot and Israeli Litvish Kehillot. YWN recently reported a similar story regarding the Belz community.
The Belz wedding plan has three parts:
1. A Gemach the will send $25,000 to each mechutan with a "easy payback" plan.
2. List of costs that that will be reduced, applicable to all.
3. Joint purchasing power to reduce wedding and appliance costs.
My reader was impressed, but I personally don't see a plan that involves the couple's respective families indebting themselves to a tune of $50,000 as much of a plan at all even if this "plan" is an improvement.
And I don't care that the $25,000 loan is interest-free. There is nothing "easy" about paying back a $25,000 loan, especially if you are the parent of a super-sized family and plan to be marrying off one child after the next child. The average Chareidi family in Israel is 8 children I believe. How many families can realistically pay back $25,000 or $200,000?
I HATE debt. If I were to write a takana regarding weddings it would read as follows:
- Do not spend a penny more on wedding expenses than you have in currently available in cash.
- Let modesty rule the day regardless of how much available cash you have.